I’ve often wondered why the human body can heal itself from physical wounds whereas mental wounds are harder to heal. That’s why counselling of any kind is extremely beneficial and being in control of our mental health is very important. I am so grateful to my counsellor who suggested EMDR (eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing). EMDR is quite amazing as it assists the natural healing ability of the body.
EMDR is based on eye movements similar to those during REM sleep. This is recreated by watching the therapist’s finger moving backwards and forwards, or in my case, the therapist tapping my right and left legs. After each session, I would report back on the memories, images or feelings that came up. After a number of sessions, the memories became more neutral and distant. I started to feel I was healing and regaining my confidence.
When I first started the therapy, I was in quite a state and traumatic memories were at the forefront of my mind. I had difficulty sleeping, relaxing and at times felt like I was going out of my mind. Over the weeks, random memories would sometimes crop up when I was at home and I experienced flashbacks. I also felt very tired and had a poor memory due to constant thoughts and memories that were going through my mind.
EMDR is amazing because it helps process raw memories in a natural way. Although it can be quite painful having to deal with disturbing thoughts, it does get easier. I liked the fact that I didn’t have to graphically talk about my past like one would in talking therapy. Instead the brain does the work for you and helps you to heal. Obviously this wouldn’t be possible without a trained therapist who is there to guide you along the way. I am truly grateful to my therapist for the help she gave me which enabled me to overcome the intrusive memories I was frequently experiencing.
I believe that EMDR doesn’t work for everyone and I was prepared for that eventuality. However, I had an optimistic outlook and went into it with an open mind. I think that because I believed in the therapy and the fact that it would work, it enabled my mind to help me as required. Now that I have got through another difficult period in my life, I feel ready and confident to move on in peace.