Fitting in

When you enter this world and don’t fit in, it can be tough but I guess I’ve kind of got used to it over the years. So why is it that if your face doesn’t fit you’re seen as an outcast and rejected by society?

Is it right to ostracise someone because they seem ‘weird’ to you? Perhaps before judging someone, people should consider what the person may have gone through in their life and issues they may have. People should also accept that everyone’s different and no one’s perfect.

This is just one of my observations in life, witnessed especially during my experiences of living in various foreign countries. People tend to cluster together like lost sheep but if you ain’t the same colour you ain’t allowed in the flock. Not fitting in with society is possibly a good thing- it means you’re individual at least.

Perhaps it’s not a case of fitting in but merely a case of there being different groups of people in the world who connect with each other. I’m very lucky to be part of Pandora’s Aquarium (a support network for rape and sexual abuse survivors) and I’m so happy to fit in there!

Unfortunately, I often lose faith in humanity especially when I’m trying to do something good. My latest project is to set up a support group for survivors of incest and abuse; however it seems the community centre that I approached thinks that “mothers coffee mornings” is a much more important subject matter!

To finish on a positive note:
“There are no extra pieces in the universe. Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill, and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.” Deepak Chopra

Comments

  1. Marj aka Thriver29 March 2009 at 22:35

    I've always felt somewhat like an alien on this planet, myself. Keep trying on that support group! Kudos to you for trying to make a difference.

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  2. Paola15 April 2009 at 14:42

    Thanks, it's nice to not feel alone. I'll keep trying that's for sure. I was having a bit of a rant in that blog!

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